A when-is-enough-enough (Never!) guide that
helps women pinpoint the warning signs of cat codependency so they can course
correct and get their lives back—should they really want to—combined with real-life
examples of the lengths women go to to please their puddies.
COMING THIS AUGUST OR SEPTEMBER!!
For those of us "of a certain age" the first thing that came to mind when I was sent a proof copy of
Women Who STILL Love Cats Too Much by
Allia Zobel Nolan, was the classic self-help book for women that was popular in the mid 80s, (
Women Who Love Too Much by
Robin Norwood). It's premise was that
"women who get mired in obsessive relationships" need to find help for themselves.
Are YOU a "woman (or in my opinion, a MAN), Who STILL Loves Cats Too Much?
Do YOU need to help yourself from your obsessive relationship with cats?
Are you covered in cat hair? Do you reek of Feliway? Is your kitty's happiness your one desire? Millions of women struggle with the same challenge. They feel inadequate when it comes to satisfying their kitties. So they wind up on a never-ending quest to do more, be more, give more.
Some say being addicted to cats plays havoc with self esteem, makes you the brunt of jokes, and interferes with quality of life, relationships and careers. Most women feel that's a small price to pay.
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I brought this hilariously funny and brilliantly illustrated little book (80 pages of fun), to the hair salon today to occupy me while I waited for my color to set, and found myself laughing out loud and nodding in recognition throughout the entire book! I give it FOUR PAWS UP and I am certain that you will too!
If you're on the fence about your cat codependency, Women Who STILL Love Cats Too Much can help! It showcases warning signs for those hoping to get their lives back with examples such as:
- You throw away fifteen or more catnip toys until you find the one your cat prefers
- She complains because she can't find "Kitty Boo-Boo on TV, so you switch to another, more expensive cable provider. (Katie Isabella, this one is for YOU! I thought of how your Mom leaves cartoons on for you when she leaves the house!)
- She brings you a dead mouse in the middle of the night and you feel compelled to get up, say "What a good kitty," then take a photo for her Facebook page.
- He sighs and you immediately run to the cabinet for treats.
- You won't turn over during the night no matter how uncomfortable you are because you might disturb the cat.
- You go ballistic when your date sits in your cat's favorite chair (I particularly related to this one from my single days because I did the same thing!)
And oh so many more!
Can you relate?
If you answered yes, what do you think you should do if you love your cat(s) too much?
Read what Allia Zobel Nolan had to say when asked a similar question!
Q. Can you give us three things women who love cats too much can do to course-correct their lives?
A. Well, first, many of us (and I include myself in the quotient), don’t want to course correct. Our lives may not be as smooth as they would be if we didn’t love cats too much. But then, surely our lives would not be as fulfilled as they are now. But for those who may consider (however briefly) changing, I would suggest: Be firm when it comes to opening and closing the door for your cat. Do it fifty times, and then leave the door ajar. Kitty may learn the mechanics of door-opening, and you’ll have ten, maybe twenty, extra minutes in your day. Here’s another thing: Try (and I say try, because you may have to give in) not to feed puddy every time she stands at her feeding bowl starring at you with soulful saucer eyes. Walk away, engage yourself in busy work, build a catio…anything to get your mind off that face. If you can’t stand the silence though, wait a while before you fill her bowl. This way, she’ll know you are NOT at her beck and call. The third thing is to try (I know it’s difficult) to do more outside the house: volunteer, go shopping, get the mail. If it becomes simply too unbearable, you can always get a video monitor app for your phone to check on them. Course-correcting will not be easy, so take baby steps.
Taking the questions a step further Allia was asked:
Q.
What is the most bizarre thing you’ve ever done for your cats?
A. Well, I don’t consider anything I’ve ever
done for my cats “bizarre.” The book notwithstanding, others whose involvement
with their puddies may not run as deeply as my own, may think I spoil them—what
with insisting on fresh, wild caught (never farmed) salmon for their meals, or
hiring a vet technician to come in to the house six times a day to make sure
they are okay when I’m away for more than two hours. Also, when I’m cuddling my newly-rescued baby,
Nolan Nolan, I also run my face up and down his fur, imitating the licking
gestures a mommy cat makes when she cleans her puddy. I do that because he is
under a year old and may be missing being groomed by his birth mom. But I don’t consider any of that
“bizarre.” However, I read on the web of
some woman who actually “married” her cat. Now, to me, that’s bizarre. That’s
like marrying your child.
"I know there are women out there who try (many in vain) to cover up their addiction to pleasing their puddies," says Zobel Nolan. "I'm one of them. So I reprised this book for two reasons: to throw cold water in their faces so they snap out of their dilemma and get a life (fat chance), and failing that, to let feline-addicted women know they're a member of a silent sorority who find it impossible to look into their cat's heart-wrenching eyes and say that callous two-letter word 'No.'
"Women like us wouldn't think twice about hiring a personal trainer to exercise our cats' arms and legs while they nap, so the babies don't have to expend the energy," confides Zobel Nolan. "It's just the kind of thing we do, and Women Who Still Love Cats Too Much finally clears the air about it.. I'm just hoping readers will find themselves in these pages and learn to appreciate and laugh at the things we do for love."
From: Health Communications, Inc.
ISBN-10:075731872X
ISBN-13:9780757318726
80 pages
$10.99
All ages
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR: Allia Zobel Nolan is an internationally-published, award-winning author of over 200 children's and adult trade titles. Her books reflect her two main passions, God and cats, and include such varied titles as Purr More, Hiss Less:Heavenly Lessons I Learned from My Cat, Cat Confessions:A Kitty-Come-Clean Tell-All Book, The Ten Commandments for Little Ones, The Worrywart's Prayer Book and Whatever:Livin' the True, Noble, Totally Excellent Life
Zobel Nolan lives and loves her puddies way too much in Connecticut with her husband, Desmond Finbarr Nolan, and their feline children, Sineady Cat, the Fraidy Cat, and Nolan Nolan.
ABOUT THE ILLUSTRATOR: Nicole Hollander created and produced the syndicated cartoon strip, Sylvia for a gazillion years. She blogs six days a week at www.Badgirlchats.com and offers a Sylvia archival strip every day-as well as links to politics, a cultural commentary, and, of course, more cat videos than you can shake a stick at!
GIVE-AWAY! ENTER TO WIN!!! Allia has generously offered to give a copy of
Women Who STILL Love Cats Too Much to
THREE of my readers who reside in the U.S. (
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(that is if you can pull yourself away from your cat(s) long enough to do so!) GOOD LUCK!
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