Thursday, June 8, 2017

Best Friends Day


Today is National Best Friends Day    It is a day to celebrate your best friend(s) and let them know what they mean to you.

I think the last time I used the term "best friend" was when I was in college. Now, I am blessed to have people in my life that I refer to as "close" friends instead of "best friends." My "best" friends are my "close" friends.

Whether I have known them for decades or days, they all add something to my life that if they were not here, they would be sorely missed.  My "close" friends are small in number, in my opinion, that is as it should be. I don't try to amass close friendships the way people are seeking "likes" on Facebook. True friendships take more time to evolve and grow than Facebook would like us to believe.   I have many "acquaintances", but few who I would consider to be "close friends."

My close friends don't pick my brain and then turn a knife in my back for their own benefit. They don't feign liking me one day, and then have nothing to do with me the next. My close friends aren't "yes" people to me or to anyone else. They care enough to not just tell me what I WANT to hear, but often will tell me what I need to hear, even if it is sometimes painful, as I do for them.

My close friends are friends where I never question their motives, I never question my trust for them. My close friendships just ARE. My communication with them is easy, natural, genuine, Those close friendships are sometimes painfully REAL. I am grateful for those friendships.

If I were to be asked  to pinpoint when those close friendships evolved, in many instances I wouldn't be able to. Many of my closest friendships were unexpected, oftentimes on the surface they would appear to be "unlikely". To me those are some of my favorite and most cherished friendships.

"Unexpected friendships are the BEST ones."

I am grateful for my close friends, and I deeply love each and every one of them.




29 comments:

  1. Do you know my human has never had a best friend? At least not a human one - I guess her best friends have mostly been kitties.

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  2. My momma's best friend is her mom, then her sister next. The last time she had a real (human) best friend who wasn't one of them was when she was in elementary school - her and her friend just bonded right away. Then she had to move.

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    1. you are blessed that your Mom is your best friend for sure. Moving as a kid stinks. We moved about 4 times when I was young, the last time was when I was 15 and had to leave all of my friends. It was awful :(

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  3. We agree that best friends are pawsome.
    They are also a little hard to find.
    Mum is thankful for her sisters and brothers and us :)
    Purrs Georgia,Julie and JJ

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  4. Well, you have said it all. And there are some bloggers whom we have NEVER met but feel are very close friends in the ways about which you write. Thank you for a friendship overview that will make us all think about just who is what.
    Love, Loulou

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    1. Exactly! You are welcome and and we love you!

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  5. My sisters and I are best friends and best enemies with our cat bro Bert. Sophie just simply doesn't like dogs!

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  6. Great post, Caren. We're lucky if we have one or two close friends in our lives, and yes, that kind of friendship is very different from the "friends" on FaceBook or other social media. My mom always said that a true friend would drop everything and fly to the other side of the world if you needed them. So if you have one or two who would, you're blessed. :-)

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  7. I have a few close friends too. Going to see some of them this weekend.

    Have a fabulous Best Friends Day. Big hug to your mom and lots of scritches to you, Cody. ♥♥♥

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  8. What a lovely post... and beautiful picture. Here's to a celebration of all those who matter the most in each of our lives!

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  9. "Friends are family that you choose yourself"
    Great post!

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  10. That was wonderful and we agree with you. We can count our close friends on a paw or two.

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    1. thank you! You are one I can count on one or two of my paws too :)

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  11. "To know someone here or there with whom you can feel there is understanding in spite of distances or thoughts expressed- That can make life a garden." Goethe
    I wish that comfort for everyone!
    xxoo

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  12. Happy Best Friends Day!
    Lily & Edward

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  13. Ohhh I think it would be fun to have a K9 sibling...but for sure I would still be
    in charge. MOLMOL
    Hugs madi your bfff

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  14. Some people don't need "real" friendships and those are the people who often have lots of, "friends". Our Mama values honest human exchanges which are rooted in love and kindness and that is why she only has a few friends, one of whom is her sister.

    the critters in the cottage xo

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    1. I LOVE how you worded that. That is EXACTLY how I feel! xoxo

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  15. Beautifully said and I'm honored to be your friend on and offline. There's nothing like hard times to know who your real friends are. 💞

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    1. thank you and I feel the same "sister friend!!!" xoxo

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  16. It is especially nice when you live with your best friend. Love the photo. Hugs and nose kisses

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  17. I really enjoyed your post on friendship and reading all the comments. I like this from a comment above: "Our Mama values honest human exchanges which are rooted in love and kindness."

    The picture of Cody and Dakota with the quote is just perfect.

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  18. You sure hit the nail on the head, Caren!
    I have two friends outside of my family members, and even though I hardly ever see them its like we have not missed a day when we do get together either on the phone or in person.

    And now I also have a circle of blogger friends who I feel I really know...but I haven't ever seen them, wow!

    Looks like Dakota is saying 'lets play' to Cody!

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  19. It's good to have close friends like that.

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  20. Mum has a small circle of close furiends. The ones she knows she can count on for ANYTHING!

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  21. Very sweet post. I am thankful for all my blogging friends, you included.

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  22. Very well written. Close friends should be like this.

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  23. Purrfectly said : a few close friends on whom you can count at any time is so good ! 10 years ago, Claire didn't believe in online friendships, but she changed her mind since she began blogging. Purrs

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